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After a very short lasting second marriage to her childhood sweetheart, Marshall Mathers, better known to the world as Eminem, Kim Mathers decided to appear on air and to be the guest of different shows, in order to give her version of the facts.
One can say that Eminem and Kim have a long common history.
It goes back to their Lincoln High days, at the time both started dating.
Kim entered into Marshall s life as Debbie Mathers foster child at the age of 13, escaping from an alcoholics home and probably suffering abuse from her step dad. Her relationship with Marshall would soon turn into love. This love has nothing in common with the usual Hollywood glamour stories, but it could rather be described as stormy, volatile, and was marked by numerous on s and off s.
Christmas 1995 marked the birth of the couple s common child, Hailie Jade. Despite the joy of her presence, it didn t prevent the couple from many misunderstandings and wicked manipulations, mostly from Kim s side, if we check back into the available, unhidden details, I mean the details different media revealed us on the couple.
I remember watching an old video in which you could see Eminem, wearing glasses and flipping the bird numerous times. In fact, the footage I am talking about was an old footage, made just before the release of the Slim Shady EP, in 1998.
During a short time the young man was talking, and the subject matter was all about his baby s mama who wanted to forbid him to see his daughter.
There is nothing more hurtful for a dad not to be able to see his kid and I do believe that, in numerous occasions, Kim used Hailie as a weapon in order to get what she wanted. She also received a spectacular response through the 97 Bonnie And Clyde song, in which Eminem murders Kim and drops her dead body into the water with Hailie s help.
Eminem has probably swallowed a lot of pain and deceptions all over the years, but he found a way to overcome them through his music. Dissing Kim in a song was a powerful outlet for his rage. Eminem might have harmed Kim through his demeaning words, but one should also consider that unlike many (abusive) husbands, Marshall never laid a finger on Kim in real life. Debbie Mathers even testified it years ago. The same cannot be said about Kim, who was witnessed by Dan Carlisle aka Mc Hush and MC Rec (pictured as Cheddar Bob in 8 Mile) slapping Marshall in the kitchen during a violent argument, at Mc Rec s house, according to MC Hush s statements in Metro Times.
I am not saying that Kim didn t suffer from the public exposure she got through her ex husband s Cds. Of course she did and it must have been unbearable to be looked at as a monster by the media.
Considering Eminem s disses towards Kim from a writer s point of view, all I can say that writing and sharing with the world has always been an excellent outlet for my joys, emotions and pains. It has helped me to overcome many real life difficulties and always made me feel stronger, so I can fully understand the expression of Eminem s temporary rage feelings towards Kim s behavior through nasty lyrics.
Ok, those lyrics have harmed Kim and probably given her sleepless nights and depression days. Those lyrics did make her look bad in the public s eye.
We might not know Kim, but we don t know Marshall Mathers as a person either. Any reasonable person would agree with me that there is always a huge gap between the artistic character revealed through an artist s musical work and the artist himself as a private person.
That s also one good reason why one should always be cautious in judging or jumping to silly conclusions regarding his stormy relationship with his ex. We don t know shit, as Eminem stated it in his spicy Kim dedicated love ballad I Love You More that goes back to 2003.
He was so right about it. We seem to know through a few songs and a few media gossips, but the truth is that we ignore most intimate details of Em and Kim s very private story.
What really happens between closed doors is veiled to gossipers view.
( frankly, I am happy it is so; everybody deserves a privacy, even superstars)
But I digressâ€¦
Let s get back to the demeaning Kim songs:
On the one hand, they might have caused Kim some pain; on the other hand, the money and wealth that followed after Eminem s tremendous record sales have also helped Kim to live a better, comfortable life with her daughters.
Ok money doesn t buy you everything, nor can it sometimes compensate what an individual went through. But it also allows you to live a more comfortable and decent life with less material struggles, which is not insignificant, particularly when you have several kids to raise.
Eminem did the best he could to offer his daughter the life he could never have as a poor white kid from a dysfunctional background and it shouldn t be counted as nothing.
His recent actions in favor of peace within the couple, signing a Court agreement along with Kim, in which both parties agreed not to diss each other for the kids best interest, show his good will in stopping this useless public war.
Eminem and Kim went to Court on March the 26th and both signed the agreement named above.
What do we hear about next day? Kim prompts to criticize Eminem on Hot 97, which lead me to the following question: what does Kim really want? Publicity? Her ex back? More useless public arguments with Em? Or is she so desperate to reach the public s compassion?
When Kim first expressed on ABC, I respected the fact that she wanted to give the world her own version of the facts and to clear her bad image.
But her willingness to insist on filthy details regarding her former couple life on Mojo made me lose a lot of respect for her, honestly speaking.
Not even within a second did the thought of harming her own kids cross Kim s mind- kids who would probably have landed in a foster home if Eminem didn t take care of them when she went AWOL in 2003 because of her cocaine problems.
Kim might feel hurt in her feelings. Maybe she didn t expect her second marriage to end up so fast. But her kids shouldn t have to pay such a high price for a distasteful revenge will against her ex in any case.
That s one good reason why Kim should now move on.
She is a beautiful, young woman with lots of assets in her hand who could enjoy the good sides of life instead of being bitter. No matter if her plans for the future include Marshall or not, she should bury the bloody hatchet of domestic war and focus on life s brighter sides, for her kids and her own sake.
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